Pedastals are un-real. That is why the Soul will not sit upon them.
Have you ever noticed that when you put someone on a pedastal they jump off? And if you put yourself on a pedastal, someone knocks you off? Perhaps you have even put someone on a pedastal and later knocked them off yourself. Maybe you have felt singled out, raised above others uncomfortably and so put yourself down, adjusting your sense of reality to a more humble and balanced state. This can happen when we have placed an idealistic quality or value of existence onto a person and they don’t live up to our expectations.
As time passes we begin to see this person in their humanness, cracks in their perfection begin to show and we become less impressed by them. We suddenly lower our opinion of them and sometimes their worthiness to be in our company and thoughts. The person we are being a bit tough with may even be our self. Pedastals sabotage the paradigm of oneness.
The EGO who is not afraid of heights and putting one ‘up there,’ is like Captain Risky…playing on a slippery dip, mounted on an electrifying soapbox, dividing wholistic intentions and scattering pieces of human unconsciousness, for an advanced game of connect the dots… with no ETA.
Exaggerated behaviours, comments or actions toward others or ourselves are noted energetically, cause discomfort and rub auntenticity up the wrong way, like a hot temper. Complimentary words and actions however, are cool, chilled out truth 🙂
Everything authentic takes Love – Three Ways…Giving it to yourself, Giving it to another and Receiving it from another. All felt deeply, truly and equally valued at the same time…every time.
Dismantling hidden agendas and building transparent collaborations starts with self awareness and self responsibility. This leads us to the Earthly platform that seats our Authentic and Beautiful, Powerful Soul xxx
When you find yourself attracted to someone because they appear different than you, you are being gifted the insight of attributes that lie dormant within you. The expression of unfulfilled joys that your Soul wishes you too to acknowledge and activate. This is how others inspire us by sharing their gifts and talents. Will you choose to explore your own abilities in ‘this’ lifetime? Be patient with yourself, play openly and attentively with your inner calling and thy will, will be done in good time.
When you find yourself loving someone because they feel similar to you, you are gifted with the confirmation of all that you already love about you…In this awareness you can be sure that you are indeed on the path to self love and acceptance….Your most Beautiful, Powerful destination. If you look back you may notice how far you have come on your travels thus far. A healing experience that unpacks your bags may reveal much of what you have let go of and now carry with Love.
When we can recognise the Beauty that exists and the Power that is available within each of our Human connections, all hell can break loose from our mental and emotional bodies….Allowing pain to be freed from our being and the spirit inside to soar to heavenly heights of peace and calm. Relating to others and merging consciousness becomes a gentle breeze, where thy sense of self floats magically throughout the journey of ones unique Soul…As it grants its own future capabilities and wishes into manifestation xxx
We live in the Age of ‘Bizzy times,’ where many Souls are creating, searching for and connecting with ‘their ‘Tribe.’ While this idea serves to divide us into a perception of our ‘rightly placed’ social circle, we must remember the importance of keeping our minds, hearts and arms open to all of our family, Humanity as a whole. A need to ‘belong’ in groups of people who like the same things as us need not override the deeper want for strengthening relationships soul to soul, irrespective of like-mindedness. Welcoming interactions and communication where differences are sensed, serves for even greater growth and connection than only recognising similarities, can ever be called to achieve.
It is a common trait for Human Beings to ‘feel’ like they do not belong. The feeling of being alone and not belonging comes from incomplete love for thy self. We have trouble belonging, ‘be’-ing in our body, for long. Our wandering minds cannot sit still without wanting us to ‘be-long’ somewhere else. Anywhere else that we think will make us feel better than we do in our solitude. Our awareness is uncomfortable within our physical body so we uninhabit it, taking our attention elsewhere, anywhere that feels better than here. This is how we distract ourselves from the calling of our Soul as it puts pressure on us to ‘be’ in our body long enough to clear out all we do not want to be or feel attached to, including our thoughts, beliefs and feelings around past, present and possible future experiences.
This quest comes about from not liking all that we currently have and are, as we are, in our entirety. We do not like our physical bodies, our hair, our eyes, our shape and size, and all we perceive that dis-ables us from the greatest joys in life, compared to others. Some are happy with how their physical body appears, they like the way they look. However, there may still be a shared lack in ‘feeling’ the energy that radiates self love and a sense of being at home within our body’s and styles of life.
It is the emotional body that we Humans do not want to ‘be-long’ to or with. We cannot be in our emotions for long periods as it is uncomfortable there. When our awareness can ‘be’ in our quiet and still body for long enough and freely give our attention to how we feel there, we allow our past disturbances the opportunity to ‘be’ and to be unlocked, acknowleded and accepted. It is in this space we give any static energy permission to flow through us, releasing its stagnating hold on our vulnerable minds and delicate bodies, thus restoring our core energy supplies and personal power. This letting go of excess energy, strengthens our conscious mind, anchors our attention within the physical body and grounds our presence in the current moment, whether we feel good or not. Unhealthy feelings can starve us of precious energy if we do not allow them to move through us, transcending our minds attachment to them. Feelings do not go away because we ignore them. All we do is hold them back, like a wolf at the door, determined to consume us another day.
Everyone has emotional baggage and the practice of clearing it out is like a fine art. It takes time, patience, will and the power of new thought. Recycling the excess energy we hold in our emotions, increases self em-power-ment and self-confidence, self-direction and self-support. When we have unconditional self-support, we can now ‘be’ ourselves and ‘be-long’ within ourselves, whether alone or in company.
Self love requires more than distracting the mind from its irrational fear of emotions, with bright shiny objects, subjects and projects. Self love must be self-full in all forms. Over indulgence in food, fun activities, luxurious purchases and heavenly experiences may temporarily satisfy our need to feel worthy and abundant, however, these alone cannot raise our spirits to all we are worth. Engulphing our mind and body in euphoric illusions as the ‘be all to end all,’ merely delays more soul filled living. It glosses over the devil inside where the keys to our emotional freedoms truly lie.
Self love requires digging deep for our strengths and weaknesses, personally developing a connection with our inner workings, loves, hurts, the lot, difgging up the dirt in all nooks and crannies, ironing out the wrinkles and feeling more comfortable in our own skin.
The souls voice intuitively guides us to a sense of belonging, no matter who or what we ‘think’ we have secured or conquored. Are you listening to the voice of your own Soul?
People come and go physically. Emotions are purely sensations caused by energy in motion that too must come and go during the Human experience. Whatever we hold onto causes our pains…mentally, physically, emotinally and spiritually.
When we can be-long in our physical and emotional bodies, we can sense a greater belonging to the tribe of Humanity, anytime, with anyone or no-one. We can see through the eyes that glaze each precious Soul we encounter, recognise the similarities and acknowledge the differences, celebrate the connectedness and uniqueness of each of you the same. Welcome each other as Brothers and Sisters, if only for a brief moment in time. We are never alone, we merely choose to isolate and separate our awareness from our connection to all that is. Judgement separates. Observation and intent to resolve the misunderstood and the unknown heals disconnection.
Life is like a never ending shopping spree and it is a common occurence for Human Souls to shop til they drop, holding onto their ‘stuff’ until something gives out without warning. The signs of pressure are always there, however, we ignore them. Over time, the goodies we have collected on our travels become forgotten for a while and we have to go back to the baggage to see what we are still holding onto and what needs to be moved on. This baggage holds us ‘down’ literally and energetically. It stunts our Spirits growth beyond our Egos insecurities and fears by not facing them. Just as with shopping, we have to put our emotional baggage down at some point. We cannot carry it forever without it draining our energy reserves and weighing us down.
The most fruitful recovery processes are ones that do not place blame and judgements on others for our collection of baggage, even if they appear to have twisted our arm into ‘buying’ into them. The final decision always rests on our own Beautiful Powerful shoulders.
Love and Magic, Natasha xxx
Your Soul is the ‘whole’ (and Holy) you. It is not a fragment of ego or spirit….It is ALL of you. When you have had a good nights sleep you may notice that your awareness of your SELF as a Soul is stronger. You feel bigger than just your body and thoughts.
This is because your Spirit is more present in your body than your mind is at this stage of our 24 hour Human energy rest and rejuvenation cycle. Our thoughts are less active and so our intuition is more present. The trick is to train our conscious mind to ‘be’ with this intuition… It may be a fleeting vision or a gut feeling that something/someone is trying to get your attention. Gift yourself this time to feel, meditate, write or speak aloud whatever comes into your minds eye or psychic senses. The power of clairvoyance goes to work when we allow our extra senses to guide us, aside of our thoughts.
Your Soul is pure energy in motion. The force of electro- magnetics constantly pushes and pulls at your energy in motion (emotion/s), that is everything you ‘feel’ about the past, present and future, driving you to make choices every day. It is the strength of your conscious intent and authentic decisions that determine the outcome of each choice.
If you deem a result of your experiences to be bad, wrong or regretful then you have missed the intuitive…the gut feelings and signposts in the process and have instead taken the low road of the mind to get to a specific ‘there,’ without the feeling of energetic alignment. There are no short cuts to authentically empowered living. You cannot cut out half of what is required for truthful authentic wholesome choices.
That said, we must consider the fruits of the journey, including the rewards/valuable lessons gained by consequences of making ego absorbed decisions based on our own insecurities. These choices aim to avoid insecurities in general…yours and those you love. However, avoiding insecurities is the only sure way to keep them alive within you and stifling your being….being Beautiful….being Powerful, being Healthy and Authentically you….Insecurities we don’t face just hide in the shadows. They keep us avoiding ourselves rather than being fully present in our bodies as they are… accepting them and truly feeling the belonging we desire…to the whole Soul that we are. Only then can we adorn our life with all that we truly yearn for and desire.
Tweaking our thoughts, feelings, words and actions to all that soothes the Body, Mind and Spirit serves the Soul as a whole and has a ripple effect on our environment, health, relationships and our ability to attract more wonder filled experiences into what may be a short and yet faithfully sweet lifetime.
The Body, Mind and Spirit form the Soul. In Psychosomatic Therapy they say that the Souls journey is to drive the body to its destiny.
I would add this – Your mind can either help or hinder that process and so our generic and unique Soul’s journey is one of engaging, interacting, loving, learning and tweaking every part of ourselves until we love it all (rather than outwardly manipulatiing people and interactions to suit the small mind that houses our limited and limiting beliefs)…Coming back ‘in’side….gaining momentous energies towards all that makes us feel whole and connected….again, to every part of ourselves and then to expand that connection and love consciously to include others and the world… the Universe at large. We ‘are’ one however we have much to improve on to function effectively as one whole humanity…..with only one Holy cause…to LOVE….ALL of You and ALL that exists xxx (Theme music to ‘The Good, The Bad & The Ugly inserted here…Love it!) 🙂
My focus this year is on Healing and reminding you how to use your innate beauty and power to better enjoy this precious life experience. Healing is about restoring harmony to every cell of our being. That is, every sub atomic particle of energy that makes up our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health and our unique form. Our states of mind, heart and soul together manifest wellness or dis-ease within our body and radiate this out, as a vibration into the world. The more calm and nurtured we feel on the inside, the more calm and nurturing our interactions become with others and our environment. Our challenges hold less drama and we attract and become more equipped to deal with even more evolutionary experiences. Our Mind has an amazing filing system that continues to file copies of the same thought in its subconscious, each time it is repeated. When we are tired, unaware and unpresent, the subconscious mind becomes the autopilot. So, whatever we have stored there is now in control. Unfortunately it is common for the subconscious to be filled with don’ts, cant’s and should haves, regrets, shame and guilt. As most dis-ease is caused by how our mind interprets everything that our five main senses are exposed to, we can have a huge job on our hands to over power an unhelpful or dis-eased state of mind. This is why I love working with energy. By focusing energy and intent on vibration, the mind is not given the opportunity to assume control. The body’s inner wisdom is supported intuitively and re guides the energy back to your core for use elsewhere. This is how energy balancing and healing works. Of course this release of energy can be felt physically too. In essence we are merely a mass of light and energy made up of totally unique patterns of energy that create the shape, size and state of each individual and amazing life form.
How Does Healing Actually Work?
We all have a mass of magnetic vortices throughout our body’s. This is why we are called ‘Electro Magnetic Beings.’ These magnetic vortices keep us connected to the Earth, instead of floating around. As you may know, magnets attract and repulse by pulling and pushing energy. They are how we attract or repulse people, places or things into our life. When we place our hands on or near another person, animal or thing, the magnetic pulses in our hands and body’s begin to push and pull at the cells. Any blockages caused by stuck or stagnant energy begin to loosen up and move on. What we are in fact doing is increasing the circulation of energy, so that it now flows smoothly, relieving pressure and stress in the area. When energy is flowing smoothly, pain is released and suffering disappears. Our body’s have an amazing ability to heal themselves. Unfortunately our minds are so powerful that they often get in the way by overprotecting us and giving us a ‘headache’ from unnecessary worry. Energy balancing can restore flow to your body and life and you don’t even have to be in the room or awake to receive it!
During a remote healing session you do not have to be in the same room as the Healing Facilitator. You may even be in different countries to each other. More on this soon.
If you are feeling sad, lonely, unlovable, unorganised, unworthy, weak, vulnerable, scared and more, then you will find yourself stuck in a never ending loop of fear, anxiety, procrastination and suffering, to some degree. One way in which to break this habitual way of living or ‘not living,’ is to reorganise the energy you are carrying around with you. Everything you are giving your energy to will be reflecting outwardly from your aura, as you may know it. Your aura is an energy field, an organised system of electrical power, that moves around you and through you, every second of the day and night, whether you know it, feel it, sense it, or not. This energy field is self balancing and directly responds to everything in your environment that you give your attention to, inwardly and outwardly. My intent is to help you understand that what we give our focus and attention to is in fact where we are directing electrical power and energy. When you realise this, you will also see that what you give your power and energy to, is also where you get your power and energy from. For example; If you gave your attention and energy to eating cardboard boxes, then you can only expect to receive the amount of energy back into your body, that cardboard boxes have to offer you in return. So why would you direct your energy toward eating boxes, if it did not nourish you and reciprocate with fresh energy? The same goes for putting energy into undesirable thoughts. It’s impossible to feel energised when you are spending your precious energy on thoughts of fear and worry. Do you see where I am coming from?
If you are feeling lost, stuck or a somewhat confused about your life or experiences, please allow yourself to reach for some help. We were not born to do life on our own. We all need guidance sometimes. I can provide you with some options to help you regain control of your energy and power, so that you can get your life back on track.
Energy is a vibration that can be sensed and changed with focused intent.
EMF Balancing Technique® Allow this beautiful technique to accelerate your evolution. Learn how it supports your inner wisdom and encourages you to let go of energy given to thoughts and emotions, that have kept you from enjoying a more peace filled, loving and unique life. Be free of the things that have kept you stuck on memories of the past or worries about what might happen in the future. Be proactive in managing your energy to live a content and fulfilling lifestyle. Allow Natasha to hold the space and honor your soul as your inner guidance redirects your energy, to create a happier and healthier you. You deserve it!
Benefits of an EMF Balancing Technique® Session Include: – Deep relaxation, Stress Release – Balance of mind and heart – Gentle release of old emotional issues and excess energy given to everywhere but the present moment, returning it for instant availability in your Core – Experience greater clarity and awareness – Feel lighter, freer and less worried about challenges that would usually have bothered you.
I am looking forward to being of service, and supporting you on your journey.
Wishing you Love and Magic , Natasha X
Dear Future Husband
Earlier this year when my 10 year old returned to me after living with his dad in NZ for a year, it didn’t take long for our home to be filled with his ever changing favourite songs. When he came up with ‘Dear Future Husband’ I told him that it was an interesting choice. His response was ‘I know but it’s got a catchy tune and I like it.’ It was interesting in the sense that I had been on my own for a couple of years and his Dad was soon to be wed for a second time. It was this song in particular that had me remind myself and my children to be mindful of what we ask for and what we attract. We openly dissected the energy and words in this song that seemed to be demanding of receiving without giving and expressive of only one side of a two-way street. An important reminder may be to consider what we too bring to the table in any relationship.
I love the little synchronicities that allow my own healing and personal growth, especially those instigated, perhaps unknowingly by my kids and our shared connection to a love of meaningful words and music. So, whenever a song is delivered to me through my littlest one’s voice, I listen up deeply and bring to the attention of both of my children, the messages and my own philosophies in regards to the artists expression. It sparks conversation about expanding awareness to the pro’s and con’s of following a tune (or anything) blindly and what we choose to support more consciously, especially relationships. A couple more of my most well-known favourites, that in perfect time have permeated my ear space from this little one over the last year are ‘Brave’ by Sarah B. and ‘Flashlight’ by Jessie J. Wonderful words, with special meaning and melodies that have brought on the release of tears from a 25 odd year emotional damn.
So here are a few words that have been whispered to me over the years, in particular the last few. These whispers seem to be supported by universal law and allowing them to guide me has seen many a dark conscience driven karma become a thing of the past. I still willingly challenge my securities and insecurities to the point of equilibration, shifting and sifting my beliefs and perceptions until they can no longer hold me or anyone else prisoner on any level.
I have learned much from these whispers and find myself in an ever expanding state of liberty and joy amongst the highs and lows of an unpredictable, vulnerable and important time in my life. I have been re-learning how to dance through life on my own two feet by challenging myself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. After all, we really do stand alone in our self-contained in-box. My intent is to shine some light on the Voice of the Soul that wishes for us an expanded and more loving reality vs a contracting and disillusioned one. I hope it reminds you too, to find the joy in every moment, including the uncomfortable lessons that serve to return us to humility and love for the simple things in life, like being human and connecting with our brothers and sisters in Humanity without discrimination or pressure, as if we were one and the same…Life partners included!
We begin this journey in life with everything to live for. Opportunities can seem bountiful through the eyes of a child and magnificently so. So what changes as we find ourselves mid-life, professing that we would die for our true loves and loved ones to prove their or our worthiness? Have you noticed that this is exactly what happens when we give up the little things that occupy large spaces in our heart’s? We would do almost anything for others, even give up our deepest desires to make their experience with us more comfortable, giving our sense of acceptance peace of mind over freedom to explore free spiritedness. A little bit of our spirit dies every time we do this L
Being unhitched for a few years may be tough on one hand but the opportunities to put yourself under the microscope to clear out the bugs and irritations come thick and fast. Though painfully confronting at first and seemingly endless at times, a Soul driven reality check can fast track you to feeling whole again if you knuckle down and bring what you do outwards back inside, to be investigated. This can be quite difficult to do while holding on to a relationship that has done its better times, however, imperative to creating a new quality of relationship without the unwanted Deja Vu.
Our most important relationship is with our values, our deepest desires that are valuable to our individuality and identity. Being true to what we each value is high priority. It is an ongoing commitment to the precious Soul that holds these treasures dear. Strong values that remain un-expressed become like guilty pleasures, we feel unworthy of indulging in. The zing in many relationships die out after a short honeymoon period where the trading of values begins to take place. Value trading is like bribery, the energy exchange is inauthentic and out of alignment with integrity of self and others, as someone lowers their ability to receive so another can win a false sense of security in a need to feel unnaturally high or in control.
It is a common trait to deny our nature to fully love being ourselves, without worry of being put up on a pedestal or down in a pit. The very loves that make our hearts beat, we tend to give away amidst the confusion of expectation to keep someone else happy first, as we expect the same loyalty in return.
A daily course of compromise can become a lifetime of unfulfilled wishes, leaving our zest for real love and adventure stifled, on the back burner or for some permanently abandoned and unrequited. And for this the Soul suffers. Some suffer in apparent silence while gradually imploding from their pent up emotions, causing irritability and insurmountable dis-ease within the mind and the physical body. Some choose to extend the suffering not so silently, lashing out at others as if their inability to be true and significant to themselves is no fault of their own.
Where does our joyous, uninhibited child-like energy go? The energy of will so strong it defies the gravitational pull of anything that could bring our spirits down…The energy of seeking to find, in every moment… something, someone to love and play with timelessly… without condition or curfew. You know, your desires to sing, dance, play a musical instrument, explore your own artistic flare, speak up, try a new sport, simply be in the company of like-minded people, study something that makes you tingle and buzz, travel, change careers and more. Our stories leave a trail of excuses that defend our lack of lust for being human and exploring future potential, leaving us feeling increasingly less than and befuzzled. Hmmm. Looking for big love by following someone else around becomes a self-destructive habit that would leave the Soul feeling bored and any close relationship lacking good vibes.
Time to unlock the freedoms bound up in the commitments and responsibilities we have accepted under duress, but first to acknowledge them as such. Admitting the truth behind each choice we have made for ourselves may open up a can of worms that many would prefer to wriggle away from. Instead, sticking it out where it is too bad to stay and too good to leave, mentally, emotionally, physically.
And so in the afternoon of life, on a new journey we must go…Sorting through emotions and memories of the past to find where we gave up the love we already had within for the hope of a greater love from with-out…The many things our partners, parents, children, friends, family, clients, colleagues receive from us may compromise our personal freedoms that only responsibility for self can call back one by one, restoring faith in one’s own Soul and inspiration to guide us now authentically empowered.
An ongoing exercise worthy of time and attention is one that taps into the treasures of personal history, including that of our previous generations. From this we can gather knowledge and recognise the wisdoms that allow our senses to expand to notice plentiful and once invisible love. It also allows us to witness the beginnings of self-destructive patterns that plague our bloodlines and extended families. Patterns of disconnection, ill health and violence passed on by entrainment require each of us to open the mind for retraining and the eyes to expanding the view to a more holistic one. Signs are subtle, present and strategically scattered throughout the experiences we have embedded in the never ending stories of each of our lives. If we read through the chapters, twists and turns thus far we can be enlightened to the drivers of the steps we have taken on our travels, the rewards and the consequences. We can recognise where we have been completely fulfilled of the lessons or left void of the presence of love. We can re-celebrate the sparks of interest that once fuelled the fire of the spirit within our embodied Soul, claiming them back on our return to self-love. There will be clues in our child hood dreams, desires, wishes, goals and behaviours. Most of us will at some level know something or many things that have inspired us to arrive at our current destination. We must keep sight of these things when we find the need to lay blame on others for our past, present and future circumstances.
The lessons that we may see as failures endeavour to expand the barriers of our limiting mind’s, where the fear of self-awareness and total responsibility keep our potential capabilities to love freely, out of reach. From our disappointments we can acknowledge and own our strengths and either accept our weaknesses or develop them for change. Tolerance is a discipline of the mind, a difficult road to take. Tolerating is putting up with a person, behaviour (including our own) or experience that we feel is wrong, denying each of us the ability to deepen bonds and instead growing us apart. Acceptance gives us the ability to let go of controlling our feelings with our mind. Acceptance takes away righteousness and wrongsciousness, integrating that win/win resolves are the only way to keep connections true and strong, irrespective of intimacy level. Anything other than win/win, compromises and distances us from a sustainable future of wellness and joy.
If we don’t resonate with another person’s values, there are only two options. Accept their values fully, love him/her anyway and leave them be, without attempting to mould them into something more acceptable to us. Or, agree to disagree, move on and let them go, to be, do and have their life without us so closely in it. Troubles brew when we expect others to give up their values for us as they are usually based on our own insecurities. Any manipulation cannot bring a harmonious truce, merely a conquering of part of one’s Soul and the breaking of the Spirit within it. This is where a free and loving relationship goes out the window and a controlling, dominating and emotionally clingy, fear filled existence takes the lead. Unfortunately, too many relationships are covered with a cleverly designed shiny mask that appears beautiful and powerful but lacks depth. This quality only comes from emotional maturity and is required for genuine sustainability. Recognising what we each do that denies a good relationship the chance to become a great one, is the key to turning it around. Being a gentle soul is not a sign of weakness and a fighting spirit is not necessarily a strong one.
Conscious relationships have challenges too, however participants are more aware of their response abilities and how to personally develop them. For example; How we respond to another’s expression through communication, action and behaviour. The aim becomes to resolve with everyone’s interests at heart rather than assume, blame, judge and compromise with resentment. Angers and frustrations are still expressed, however more honestly and fairly with the butt stopping at self, responsibly and with care.
When we consciously navigate our relationships we can find ourselves constantly questioning our own motives when things don’t go to plan. If our mind is mapping our journey alone there will many headaches along the way. Challenging neediness and expectations of ourselves and others helps us grow beyond manipulation, immature motives and hidden agendas that only keep shallow connections alive. Letting go of the need for attention allows natural love and attraction to flow you the way, where energetic shackles and chains are not forced upon anyone. An unaware Soul will manipulate others to get their own way and attention, with drama, demands, intimidation and bait. Anger and threats for control over finances, children and superiority are not conducive to a good resolve for anyone, least of all the children we are entraining to become happy, healthy and balanced adults. It is in these experiences we are pushed to either fight for what’s really important to us or to let go for better flow. Be mindful of and real about what is creating more fighting vs more flow. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes to understand their pain and priorities strengthens the energy of empathy and compassion between you and makes future personal requests more likely to be considered. When people feel ignored they can also feel invisible and insignificant. This state of being can be the instigator of a defensive personality trait that demands attention and importance, protecting the owner from having their insecurities being revealed. Humour may also hide their inability to face personal truths.
When the least dominant partner retreats, they shut off and become child-like. Men can become more like a son that follows his Mum around, waiting for permission to venture out into the world and at the same time, inwardly disrespecting and dishonouring her for the choices and decisions she makes on his behalf that do not support his dormant expression of self. He may even reject her support of his heart felt interests, disallowing her attempts to nurture lovingly and instead magnifying his gut wrenching fear of having his every move controlled by someone else. And still he does not move far from his comfort zone to conquer his communication challenges. The same goes for women actively lessening their value by not being true to or about themselves. Instead, storing feelings of anger and building up frustrations, while denying insecurities, shame, guilt and helplessness for an imminent display of fireworks that could knock a house down, leaving the man in their lives confused, irritated, distant and emotionally unavailable to her. Of course all of these traits are interchangeable and there will be so many more. And then the games begin.
The weakest link will be afraid to be truthful about their desires and will give up their independence to the dominant partner as if surrendering to avoid conflict and feel safe for a little longer. Unable to activate their inner voice they take a lower place in the pecking order that keeps them a slave to receiving only tid-bits of love. They will base their daily choices, words and actions on protecting their partner’s insecurities to keep their own insecurities at peace or out of sight. This is only a temporary measure. Diminishing the spirit of one to raise another is not authentic either way, therefore unable to be truly felt as such. Inauthenticity is soul destroying and dis-ease forming, mentally, emotionally and physically because the true direction of the spirit has been denied. This can happen many times each day in stagnant relationships that include co-dependency and passive aggressive traits. When fear over love takes charge of our priorities, personal gains are received by limiting one party’s freedom and an invisible force field begins to form. Like a barricade, this force field naively protects the owner from the contents of the diary of hurt, shelved in the heart space. It becomes like a damn holding back a river of uncried tears. This is where we get lost, bewildered and dysfunctional.
The solution is simple although not necessarily easy to carry through. Both parties will have a painful history of unhealed memories, mixed up in out dated beliefs, unjustified perceptions and heart breaking experiences that have led them to where they now stand, grappling for a strong hold on their environment and a foot on solid ground to mark their territory and feel energetically supported and capable. Not a sound way to move fluidly through life, instead quite a shaky way to get by. Yes, I have been there and it is the path of the spiritual revolutionary to journey through their own home made maize toward the gateway of greater personal freedoms, encouraging others in their presence to do the same. When we begin to face the fear beneath the human worrier’s suit of armour we can exchange it for the love implanted in the spiritual warrior’s inner strengths and abilities.
A conscious Soul chooses to love what they love about people including life partners and leave the rest alone. Accept or opt out. Tying people down and retraining them to be like us creates two of us and none of them. Not so cool if you think about it like that.
Partnerships of any kind need to be fun. So play! Not games of the mind or tugs of war with feelings, competing with the energy in motion to win over someone else. A state of love and joy may not be possible to hold 100% of the time but it is in the down time that we have the ability to let go of the need for others to provide this for us. Letting go of the expectation for others to conform to ‘our ways’ expands compassion and allows love to move more freely around the planet. When the governing state of a relationship is no longer kind, gentle and nurturing, it can become a game of tit for tat, with blame and shame that magnifies the energetic repulsion of each other. And so the love that two once shared buries itself under the pain of all past hurts and misunderstandings. While the Soul desires to raise this pain to the surface for acknowledgement and to release it from the subconscious, the conscious mind feels under threat and mindlessly attempts to control everything in its sight, in lieu of facing the hurtful truth behind it. When we fail to release misunderstandings and pains from our being, the subconscious that holds them can over power our ability to attract, protect and provide for ourselves in a graceful and balanced way.
My biggest observations have become highlights in my learnings toward more authentically beautiful and powerful relationships including that which I have with myself.
A couple of eye opening and equally disempowering relationship styles I’d like to shine a light on may be confronting for the vulnerable and possibly offensive to some. However, my intent in all that I do is to raise awareness of the spirit that becomes unearthed, as if non-existent in its own human life time. An undiscovered spirit slowly fades away without ever enjoying the fruits of its authentic beauty and power and the Big, Big Love we all yearn for is like the ‘one that got away.’
A kept woman may be seen to have everything but if it is only all that money can buy then she may be kept small and insignificant in her own right. If she plays the life of her dreams by her own rules and explores her own personal potential, then she is a self-kept woman holding her authentic beauty and power high on her list of priorities. Financial support then becomes irrelevant.
A man kept under the thumb of his partner may never know the experience of feeling beautiful, powerful, emotionally honoured, self-directed and self-supported.
When men and women can come together to celebrate their own existence and connection with each other beyond the smoke and mirrors that cloud clear seeing, the relationships we truly seek will be found for the keeping J
I am your Ego, your partner in crime
I’ll push you ahead, leaving others behind
I’m with you for life, I’ll thrive on your fear
Acknowledge and accept me….If you dare!
Challenge and mould me, I’ll work hard for you
Let go and succeed, with wisdom in lieu
I’m just like a shadow, I’ll always be near
You can let me cause havoc, or teach me to care
Unlock and release me, I’ll not let you down
I’ll do what it takes to keep you around
Lets face it I need you and you need me
Together we’ll learn to live, love and ‘be’
Integrate our energies, realise its worth
As we travel connected, whilst here on this Earth
The Ego can serve us well. It’s desire is to protect us and drive us towards self improvement….to better ourselves if you will, for a better quality of life. Without Ego, we would not get past the basics, to reach magnificent heights and achievements. Plodding along for long periods is not necessary and does not serve us personally, or Humanity well.
We can use our Ego to push through perceived barriers and reach our fullest capabilities, so that we may share our gifts with the world around us…The gifts we have come to create ‘for’ Humanity. This inspires others to open up to their own abilities and capabilities and in turn inspire others to do the same and so on. Can you imagine a world filled with joyous, dream creating people? It is when we are supporting each others divine natures that we begin to thrive as one and love radiates throughout the Universe.
Our Ego can support us to challenge and rebel societies, standards, systems and processes that keep us as a collective from thriving. Our Ego can encourage doing life with a more expanded reality or a constricted and stress filled, love inhibiting one….Which one will you choose?
When we stand up in a compassionate and caring way, our energy attracts greater experiences and we become a magnet for love, in all of its forms.
Without Ego, the Soul would live only to survive. The Soul holds the wisdoms that carry your will. Without the wisdoms of the Soul, The Ego would live unconsciously. As partners, the Ego and the Soul can learn to really ‘live’ and experience the giving and receiving of love, trust and abundance simultaneously through the cause and effect of each others intentions, actions, judgements and boundaries. Awareness of the Ego and Soul is where the path of enlightenment begins and the journey of self discovery and self mastery never ends.
Natasha Jones March 2010
Many Blessings Dear Ones, It is I, Isis, Goddess of the Mothers, all Mothers, All Gods and Goddesses of Mothering. You have called on me…finally. You have noticed my existence in your awareness. I have been here for much of what you call ‘time.’ Make no mistake, I am here to stay, here to help you spread the words. The words of love you feel in your heart, for humanity, for consciousness, past, present and future. It is all connected and all relative to the re-evolution of human-kind, spirit-kind, soul..fullness and self…fullness. Let go of your worries Dear Ones and hand them over to me. Let the winds of spirit carry them away like a dark horse riding into the light.
You have seen me on my horse with wings. A beauteous feminine creature with whom I ride the whispers of change through the air, on the callings of the beautiful souls that wish to discover the secrets of how to live more, love more, have more and be more of service to themselves and others. A magical desire to possess Dear Ones….the know-how, the wisdoms… along with elegance and grace. A time for sharing now indeed and you have come to the right place. The place of humility and compassion, equality and acceptance of the important attributes within the human and its being.
Now let us speak of this ‘Mothers Day’
For some time, the power of the ‘Mother,’ all Mothers has been taken over by control. The timeless gift of nurturing has been severed at the root by the fear filled energy of the masculine…not to consciously drown her emotional waves and strengths out but to conquer all fears and energies of his deepest insecurities. This is not men we talk about you understand, but the masculine life force within each living creature that feels the need to be “King of the Castle,’ shall we say. Bless the masculine Dear Ones for it was meant to be strong and powerful too. It is not in its nature to ‘rule with an iron fist’ for the sake of it. It merely marches ahead where it encounters more and less boundaries… taking itself to new levels of accomplishment and abundance. The masculine within all often finds himself unhindered by and unaware of the less forceful divine feminine energies that practice patience, love and compassion at all costs, awaiting the attention of the masculine, giving intent for his awareness of her and to be included as part of their whole being….together.
The masculine feels strong and capable in his powerful self and so it has been a time of learning, unfolding and maturing to allow the feminine to penetrate his awareness and begin to open up to integrating her beauty within its being to become whole… And from here the gifts of the soul can become fully actualised. Interestingly, the masculine will fight for the feminine, not realising that he is fighting to connect with, protect and restore with authenticity, the connection to the more gentle side of himself, who is as yet invisible.
The Feminine does not need fighting for, she is capable in her own right of duties too. The Feminine, …is beautiful and powerful, peacefully holding the wisdoms of the Earth Mother and bestowed with the gift that gives birth to life in many forms, Human, Plant, Animal, Mineral, Spiritual.
The feminine… nurturing, mothering is not only available to the female gender. It is available within all and accessible to all who choose the path to wholeness…that is, to accept the whole of ones being and express themselves as such…expressing their ‘whole’ self…a self that openly radiates both their masculine and feminine qualities authentically, easefully and gracefully…without pressure, judgement and filtering of insecurities and vulnerabilities. It is within your experience and journeying each lifetime that you come to ‘know’ when and how to express and share your wandering and spontaneous, intuitive feminine nature and when and how to call upon and utilise our your more direct, focused and purpose filled masculine abilities and capabilities. It is time to allow the Feminine within each of you to shine with all her might and for the Masculine within you to reach out his hand and draw her close to his side. This is where your greatest nurturing and conquering can begin!
What a Beautiful, Powerful partnership we all have, laying in waiting 🙂
Love and Magic, Natasha xxx
Following my guiding light
Unconscious by day, conscious by night
Where am I going and where will it lead
It’s full of surprises and lessons to heed
Embrace and endure all experience the same
Back to the source from where we once came
The good, the bad, the ugly galore
The laughter, the tears and oh so much more
What’s in between makes us who we are
Finding our balance we’re sure to go far
For life is a precious and magical game
So treat it as such like your inner most flame
The one that’s inside you and drives you to tread
Where the ground is both new and you’re likely to dread
Chase your fears down and face them with pride
So the energy surrounding them can only subside
Feel free of the baggage that no longer serves you
Breathe deep and relax without limits or curfew
Live life to the full, have fun, be a devil
Step outside the square and to the next level
Step down and step deep to find the real you
Without judgement or blame you will find what is true
The truth is the best and most potent of all
Where love and compassion and consciousness call
The Universe needs you, there’s no time to rest
Accelerate evolution, experience your best
Copyright Natasha Jones March 2008
My arm is not easily twisted when I have my mind set on something, however, a deeper calling for a change in routine as a Human Doing was on the menu for me recently. A time to reflect on yet another end of an insightful era. As I sat on the plane, enjoying my lack of urgent tasks these words came through to me and I wondered if anyone else around me felt like this too. Oh the joys of being Human 🙂
Heading to Melbourne…
Today as I fly, elevated sky high
And I float amongst silky white clouds
In a plane I am soaring, with Melbourne a calling
To experience first sights and new crowds
Child free for two weeks, more joy do I seek,
So chill me and thrill me, I’m ready
A breather from work and the blinding routine
My intent to feel worthy and steady
A spontaneous trip, best interests at heart
To rejuvenate zest for life
Awakening Spirit and stirring it up
Transforming me, dark into light
On my return…
Heading back home, post good times away
A relaxing , adventurous, nurturing stay
Reflecting with family, wandering, exploring
Reconnecting with self, honouring, adoring
Celebrating the Soul, past illusions in time
Adorning a journey, with moments that chime
Awareness called in, a being unearthed
Core energy centred, feeling rebirthed
Welcoming change, receiving and giving
Gently returned to intuitive living
Love the healing magic of words xxx